Archive for year 2008
Your Inner Critic: Fiend or Friend?
2Congratulations for taking steps to make positive changes and overcome your fears! Let us continue on our Acting for REAL journey to success…
Similar to Fear, self-limiting beliefs are also created by your Inner Critic. This internal voice talks you out of going after things that you know you can do, you can have, and you deserve. It is inspired by the voice of someone who may be close to you, but has told you that you can’t do something—a family member, a friend, a colleague, or someone else close to you. These are people who believe they are looking out for your best interests, and are keeping you from getting hurt. But people like this, who are overly critical and believe they are helping you, are not aware of the psychological damage that is being done. “You can’t sing!” “Your brother is smarter than you.” “You’ll never make it.” “That kind of thing should be left to the professionals.” “Giving up would be the practical thing to do.” These are examples of external garbage that creates your Inner Critic, making it the voice of opposition that prevents you from taking action. Once created, you feed it, by agreeing with it—allowing it to stop you from moving forward.
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Self-Talk: Say What?!
0While your Inner Critic acts as a pre-recorded tape of pessimism, Self-Talk is the internal dialogue that results.
Along with your Inner Critic, Self-Talk is a constant, running dialogue in your conscious and unconscious mind that can be self-limiting unless you become aware of it and use it to empower you. Negative Self-Talk can come from inside of you—or from the outside world and the given circumstances. We are the results of how we see ourselves—how we communicate with ourselves, and how we have been programmed. Be aware of who and what is programming your brain. Surround yourself with people who validate your beliefs and encourage your ideas, so that they can help you reach your positive outcomes. If we allow others to make our decisions for us, we become voluntary slaves.
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Self Image: Who are you…EXACTLY?
0Let’s take a look at the specific Acting for REAL roles that make up who you are.
Creating a positive attitude and enlightened state of mind requires a healthy self-image. Your Self-Iimage is based on an identity that is composed of the specific roles you play in life. Acting for REAL is about specificity. When you simply refer to yourself as a “human being,” you’re saying that you’re a mammal who walks on two legs, who currently has a heartbeat—you are nothing more than the highest form of animal intelligence. You are more than that—so be more than that. You are a man or a woman. You are a mother, father, brother, sister, artist, aunt, uncle, teacher, student. You are a leader. You portray many diverse and wonderful roles in life, so write them down—NOW! Take ownership of everything that you are!
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Comfort Zones: Are you a Zone Zombie?
0Beware the curse of the Zone Zombie! Sound like a bad B-movie? Well it kind of is—and this is one role you can happily pass up.
Behavior regulators called Comfort Zones directly correspond to our Self-Image. For each picture we have of ourselves there is a Comfort Zone that reinforces that image. Some Comfort Zones come from shared images such as our culture which may tell us what we should do or should believe. When these images become rooted in our consciousness, they become Cultural Comfort Zones—or Cultural Trances—boundary-enforced by misinformation. Here are two of what I call “flat world beliefs” the US culture is now challenging:
- “A woman can never be president.”
- “The world cannot function without oil.”
Are you Coachable?
0Most everyone likes to get the inside track on how the wealthy got that way. Are you ready for one of the best-kept-secrets of the fabulously Rich?
The richest people in the world use coaches — and that’s no accident. What all high achievers know is that they need someone who can give them an objective view on the outcomes they are working to create in their lives. A coach not only holds you accountable for the results you desire, but also provides you with insights and strategies you can use to achieve those results in the best way possible.
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What is this thing called “Bop”?
2Part 3: Present
Anyone and everyone can achieve BOP! It is that ambiguous state of greatness that top athletes refer to as “being in the zone”—when they’re at the top of their game—performing flawlessly and feeling seemingly effortless joy. Good news! That state of greatness is not just for athletes anymore. BOP = Balanced + Observant + Present.
Balance, the first step in BOP, is essential to everything in life—if you are not in balance the slightest obstacle will knock you off course—that applies physically, mentally and spiritually, but you must begin by balancing your body physically.
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What is this thing called “Bop”?
0Part 2: Observant
BOP—being grounded in the ultimate state of readiness—is a solid foundation for all the greatness you will achieve in life. It is the Essence of Excellence! When you are in BOP, you are:
B = Balanced
O = Observant
P = Present
BOP is being ready and available to the most that life has to offer you—emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally. Once you are Balanced and ready for action, you must turn to your greatest teacher: your own power of Observation. Being Observant is the second step in BOP and one of your most powerful tools. It incorporates everything we perceive through our sensory acuity as well as everything we perceive both consciously and unconsciously.
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What is this thing called “Bop”?
0Part 1: Balanced
When I became involved in the theory of BOP, it reminded me of my youth in the late fifties. Those were the days! There was this dance craze going on at the time called “The Be-Bop” or as my mother used to call it, “The Dirty Boogie.” My grandmother was worse; to her it was the devil’s music! I used to sneak out every chance I could to go to my friend’s house. We’d listen to records like Elvis, Little Richard, Chuck Berry, Bill Haley and the Comets and we’d rock around the clock! So when I came up with the term BOP, it brought me back to when I was a teenager and all the fun I had just listening and dancing the night away.
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Funny is Money
0Today let’s chat about why funny is money…and break this down.
CHA-HA-HA-CHING!
In any relationship, be it professional or personal, humor can be part of the glue that holds it together and moves it forward. Making a customer laugh can get a waitress a bigger tip. A humorous salesman can relax the customers and make them less critical, hostile or aggressive. For actors, the ability to make others laugh can be essential in getting ahead – in casting sessions, the actor most likely to book the part is the actor with a sense of humor because he will be fun to work with on the set. With friends, family or spouses, humor can disarm a tense situation and lead to a more relaxed environment where honest communication is possible. When you make other people laugh you, relax them… and yourself.
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Don’t get in such a Twitter over Twitter!
1Everybody luvs a good fight…
…if the fight is evenly matched. But this cat fight made me wet my pants – yes I peed in my pants from laughter.
It reminded me of the movie, “The Mouse that Roared” The world’s smallest nation, the Duchy of Grand Fenwick decides that the only way to get out of their economic woes is to declare war on the United States, lose and accept foreign aid. Staring the late, Peter Sellers.
Here is what I am going to do: I am going to paraphrase and reprint some of John Reese’s ”Pissed off Post,” because it is too long.
So let’s get ready to rumble!
This is not the whole thing. John said, “I was recently called out and attackedby Mark ‘Rizzn’ Hopkins over at the blog Mashable with his latest post, Is Twitter Vulnerable To Marketer Attack?.”
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